I’ve been thinking about labels…
it’s dead easy to label our children…
this is ‘the musical one’
this is ‘the quiet one’
she’s ‘just like her Dad’
but how much do we think about how those labels stick..?
What labels were you given as a child?
‘the shy one’
‘the fussy eater’
‘the messy one’
How much has that shaped your opinion of yourself?
So often, we hear and then take on, these childhood messages so that we are constantly (consciously or not) living up (or down!) to them – even in adulthood…
How is this holding on to this label working out for you?
Sometimes even seemingly positive labels such as
‘the clever one’
can cause us problems – see Carol Dweck’s work on fixed vs growth mindsets – link to YouTube.
Next time you catch your inner voice saying
‘I’m always [clumsy/messy/….]’
‘I’m no good at [cooking/talking to new people…]’
‘I don’t like [olives/flying/…]’
(see my last blog for more on olives – Trying something new…!)
‘how do I know?’
‘what evidence do I have?’
‘how old is that evidence?’
What is your experience of being labelled?
What beliefs are you holding on to? How is holding onto this belief or this label working out for you?
Let me know by adding your comments below..
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